military wife

A Vacation From Our Vacation: A Palm Desert Re-Cap

It’s no secret that we live our everyday lives in sunny San Diego, a vacation destination by all accounts. But, no matter where you call home, a change of scenery once in a while from where you work and do laundry is a must. Even when we were stationed at Pearl Harbor, we island-hopped to…

Tribute to A Few Good Men (and one in particular)

This week our family is celebrating my husband’s 40th birthday and I wanted to give him a shout out (and embarrass him a little). Once in a while it’s a good idea to acknowledge some of the very best things about the man I share my life with, and remind him that he is much…

Deployment Series: 8 Ways to Combat Anxiety

Here we are in the fourth installment of the monthly deployment series and also the most difficult topic I never wanted to write about. Introduction, technology, and meal planning posts will catch you right up and bring you to today’s topic of anxiety. Blindsided. That’s the absolute truth. A capable, responsible mom of three, 16…

Making Peace with the Nomadic Nature of Military Families

As a recent college graduate and brand-new Navy wife, moving in to base housing was like a dream come true. We had it made in our freshly renovated 2-bedroom duplex with linoleum floors throughout. My college friends were mostly living in apartments or houses with ever-changing roommate situations and I was a married woman with…

Building Confidence as a Military Spouse

I have to admit, some of the first military spouses I met as a newlywed Navy wife exuded confidence. I secretly wished for the day that I might also feel like I knew enough about the military lifestyle and sub-culture that I’d have some knowledge to pass on to a younger spouse. The years went…

Date Night: A Moving Target

As a teenager, I used to babysit for a couple who went on regular “date nights”. I imagined, as I got older, that I would also carve out that special weekly Saturday night with my future husband. And then I married a submariner. Where the only schedule is that there is no schedule. Ok. I…

To the Military Spouse Who Feels Clueless

Remember the Friends episode where Joey pretends like he understands what everyone else is talking about, but really, he doesn’t have a clue? The one where he buys a set of encyclopedias so he can sound smart and fit in with his more intelligent buds? Have you ever felt like that?   Years ago, in…

3 Tips for a Festive 4th of July for the Disconnected Military Spouse

Have you recently PCS’d and lack close friendships in a new town? Is your service member deployed or otherwise not with you geographically this 4th of July? Do you feel like everyone has BBQ and fireworks-viewing plans except you? If so, I have some tips for you today that will help you make the most…

It’s PCS Season: Who’s Your Neighbor?

School’s out and it’s PCS time, or moving season, for many military families. We aren’t moving this year but are saying goodbye to a couple families who are. We don’t live on base and are not part of any sort of tight-knit military community. But when my daughter met another military kid at school, there…